What does the right choice feel like?
Have you seen the movie called Wild starring Reese Witherspoon? In the movie her mother says to her: Always do the kindest thing. It made me think about kindness and how we as parents try to give our children a moral compass to navigate through what seems to be an increasingly complicated life. How can we make it simple for them? How can we make sure the messages they get are consistent? How can we practice what we preach? Perhaps it is as simple as that one piece of advice – always do the kindest thing.
“Every kid is one caring adult away from being a success story.” is a quote that circulated on social media this week. What does a ‘success story’ look like for your child, your family, your community and humanity?
Today, Rachel’s latest Hands Free Mama story landed in my inbox. She is a mum with a mantra to which I strongly relate: ‘I want to make memories, not to-do-lists. I want to feel the squeeze of my child’s arms, not the pressure of over-commitment. I want to get lost in conversation with the people I love, not consumed by a sea of unimportant e-mails. I want to be overwhelmed by sunsets that give me hope, not overloaded agendas that steal my joy…’
In her latest blog Rachel talks about a way for kids to learn what the right choice feels like through a lovely story about her own family taking care of abandoned kittens. Reading it is well worth your time. She asks why so many people are choosing the wrong thing, the selfish thing, the hateful thing, the horrific thing, the destructive thing instead of choosing love, kindness, respect, understanding and compassion. Is it the age of intolerance?
It seems to me that it comes down to our moral compass and what our hearts guide us to do. The fruit of the Spirit guides us towards love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Adults, children, leaders, families, businesses, all walks of life are faced with difficult choices every day and we don’t always get it right but, at the end of any day, you want to be able to say: ‘you made the right choice’. Ultimately, we don’t want anyone to have to tell us that we’ve made the right choice, as our hearts will already know that it is so.